You should see someone about your marriage, your relationship, an affair, your personal life, or even a possible divorce who has experience with your type of concerns. I have been a psychologist in practice for over 25 years, and I have specialized in couples' therapy, marriage counseling, and relationships for the last 15 years. You want to see someone that you feel comfortable with, who listens carefully and respectfully to your concerns, and who seems to know how to help you articulate what you want. My clients appreciate that I am goal-focused, practical, solution-oriented, and direct. I also believe in using approaches and models that have been shown to be effective over time. I also believe in getting ongoing feedback and information from the people I see about whether what we are doing is helpful and providing what they need.